When ever I ask my Dad where some thing is, he always says this, "Look and you shall find." He gets us mad.  Whenever we do it to him, he gets mad.  When we say it, we also say, "So you dont like it when we do it to you. So now you know what it feels like."   Yet we still do it back and forth, and this is my family life. So the advice is to treat others as you want to be treated.